So, to support and maintain your sobriety, enjoy and really take in its benefits. At the start of a day, an evening, or even a minute, commit to and enjoy the anticipated positive results of sobriety. While you are being sober in some way, enjoy the results. After being sober, looking back, take in the sense of its benefits. Personally, I think of sobriety in terms of the big picture, and in the context of a life well-lived.

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The same difference was not found in male counterparts. A 2011 study sought to examine a specific genotype known as ALDH2 and found that in cisgender women, the age of onset of alcoholism was significantly younger in those whose ALDH2 was inactive, and higher in those individuals with active ALDH2. Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from being sober sucks Psychology Today. Those who have been invested in AA swear these promises are realized. Many newcomers wonder how long-time members can make these claims when sober members are still acting out. How you deal with this one is you use it and you own it and you live it, because there is nothing more beautiful than a human who has no other choice but to be themself.

How Do We Achieve Long-Term Sobriety?

The person who posed the question felt she had been misled. She believed that, even after decades of recovery, some people were “still messed up and acting out their issues.” Becoming sober isn’t just about abstaining from alcohol. It’s a subversive, hardcore choice to take your life into your own hands.

The Downside of Sobriety: The 6 Things No One Tells You Might Happen If You Quit Drinking

While making the decision to be sober was the best thing I’ve ever done, it’s also one of the hardest. Not only because not drinking is hard, but also because we live in a society where most everyone around us drinks. I have since learned I am not alone in experiencing this phenomenon. 65% of all those in recovery gain weight, and if you struggle with an alcohol problem, there’s a strong chance you may also be fighting anxiety, depression, mood swings or compulsive behavior. These unanticipated obstacles to wellbeing have the capacity to derail an otherwise smooth sailing recovery. I am very happy and grateful to be two years sober, but I wish I’d known then, what I know now.

I don’t regret quitting alcohol, but sobriety isn’t always easy.

• Sobriety doesn’t necessarily turn you into Liz Lemon, but it can give you the clarity to understand that you’ve been Liz Lemon your whole life.
• It’s increasingly common for someone to be diagnosed with a condition such as ADHD or autism as an adult.
• It’s why we were saddened but hardly shocked when Binzer’s representative confirmed in June that the vocalist died of an accidental drug overdose.
• This subreddit is a place to motivate each other to control or stop drinking.

So now I’m sober, and I have zero choice but to be me in all situations. There is no escape route, or greasing the wheels, or magic potion that makes people less terrifying, or me more “socially normal.” I can’t do anything about who I am, which is perfect because we should all be so lucky to be ourselves in public. You’re probably not going to hear this anyplace else, so I should get some points for candor, even though it is certainly controversial to talk about the negative aspects of something so overwhelmingly positive. I know, I know, this website is called “Recovery Connection” and it is designed to encourage those who are suffering the slings and arrows of addiction to get help. It is also an educational tool for addiction professionals and those in recovery, and I am here to tell you I had some unexpected lessons to learn when I became sober. I wrote about some of my difficulties in sobriety last year, in a post called The Worst Parts of Sobriety.

The Downside of Sobriety

Recovery Connection is the ultimate addiction recovery resource portal for information on the latest treatments, centers, and programs. Whether you’re looking for treatment or for aftercare options, we can point you in the right direction. My biggest fears in life include being in large groups of strange people, standing at parties by myself, and really just people in general.

• I have always hated the feeling that I’m putting people out or being difficult.
• Enjoy the freedom in not being compelled to drink, etc.
• In the early days, I felt that it was my responsibility to answer the question, “How come you aren’t drinking?

Pigging out over a luscious meal with friends once a month is one thing, but over-eating daily is another. Bottom-line, if you can’t do something within appropriate bounds, you can’t do it at all. Most of us – me included – know where we tend to go too far and need to establish a more wholesome balance. And obviously, any behavior that harms others should go to zero.

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This is certainly a common view for many who spend time in AA. Why do people, who have been sober for years, behave inappropriately with alarming regularity? Recently, I was asked this question in group therapy (the exact words have been edited as they were not fit to print).

My dad was an alcoholic and was a terrible parent, which was another reason I wanted to be sober, I didn’t want to become him. But…I dont want kids, and im not an angry drunk, so it’s not really the same. Before people say it, I do struggle with depression from time to time, but I dont think thats an issue here. I’m not sad, I don’t want to die, and antidepressants haven’t helped. Drinking and getting high was a lot more fun. Plus I think they actually motivated me to do healthier things.

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Matthew Perry was just one of many celebrities whose weekly whereabouts would alternately display their shiny, happy mugs and/or much less happy mugshots splashed across tabloids. If it seems like some people can’t catch a break when it comes to breaking free of their addiction, according to science, many people have their genetics to blame. This is a treatment that first prevents someone from using their substance of choice and then provides information about the harm of using. It’s increasingly common for someone to be diagnosed with a condition such as ADHD or autism as an adult. A diagnosis often brings relief, but it can also come with as many questions as answers. William Berry is a psychotherapist and teaches at Florida International University.